"The Couch" Blog

Nov 17
Holiday Gifts… or burdens?

This post was collaboratively authored with financial planner (and friend) Erik Garcia.  Visit his website to learn more. We’re family guys, gift givers, and holiday celebrants, but we’re both tired of seeing our clients struggle through the financial pressure of …

Oct 13
Single in New Orleans? You’re not alone…

Singles? Louisiana is first in something! A recent report listed New Orleans (58%) as having the largest percentage of single residents of any metro area in the US, and Louisiana (55.7%) as the most “single” state.  Moreover, according to statisticians, for …

Sep 29
5 Keys to Reducing Co-Parenting Conflict

Co-Parenting is hard… really hard.   Co-Parenting = parents continuing to parent cooperatively together, from 2 different homes, after they have separated or divorced. Remaining effective parents after the marriage ends (or the romantic relationship dissolves) is really difficult and complicated. …

Aug 18
Are we compatible?

Becoming Compatible I regularly hear the couples I counsel wonder if they and their partner are compatible.  Soul-mates.  They seem to suggest that if they’re compatible, the relationship may work, but if they’re not compatible, the relationship will fail.  They seem …

May 10
“New” New Orleans Couples Counselor

Introducing…. Tralana Martinez The couples and families of New Orleans have a new option for Relationship Counseling. Tralana completed her Master’s of Arts degree in Counseling at Our Lady of Holy Cross College in 2013 (and yes, she was one …

Mar 31
4 Skills of Financially Healthy Families – part 2

Family Finances: (part 2) By now, if you read part 1, you’re probably frenetically tracking your spending and budgeting like a banshee.  And wow, now that you know where your money is going, it’s much easier to plan how you …

Mar 25
4 Skills of Financially Healthy Families – part 1

Family Finances: When I meet with families and couples, I often ask them the following question: “How are you doing financially?” I leave this question intentionally vague, hoping to get a picture of clients’ money management skill, their perceived financial stress, and …

Feb 09
Relationship Counseling

What is Relationship Counseling? Recently my kids were playing with a group of their friends.  After being together for awhile, one of them noticed that their play time was not nearly as conflict-filled as it normally is.  They discussed this …

Jan 29
The Beauty of Setting Limits…

How can setting limits help you? It’s a snow day in New Orleans.  If you look outside, there’s no snow.  But just the threat of snow, and it’s nefarious cousin, ICE, have closed down NOLA schools, businesses, and roads.  Thus, …

Dec 23
Some Testimonials…

It’s daunting to choose a counselor… and testimonials from others can sometimes make the decision easier.  Below are a few thoughts about my work from a few of my professional colleagues and friends.  Hope this helps you make your decision. …